February 2012
37 posts
January 2012
33 posts
Would that I could remember my ALA membership password.
Kristen Bell, on dating (via sarka)
Two things:
- added Joseph (sarka) to Rethink’s blogroll
- Dating is not gross. You have to make up your mind before a date that whomever you’re going out with is going to have a good time. There are nerves, but you gotta be resolved “hey, I’m gonna make this fun for them.” The biggest issue with dating is that it’s artificial. When I’m trying to get to know someone nowadays, I’m doing less splashy things and more “mini-dates” - time talking over coffee, time spent shopping with someone, etc. Not that one doesn’t try to make that fun, either. It’s just more down-to-earth.
(via not-ideal)
I figured the little bit of grossness she referred to was from unwanted advances.
Over the past five years, Susan G. Komen for the Cure Foundation funds have enabled Planned Parenthood health centers to provide nearly 170,000 clinical breast exams and referrals for more than 6,400 mammograms. These cancer detection and prevention programs saved the lives of women who often had nowhere else to turn for care.
Now, after facing criticism from anti-choice, anti-women’s health groups, the Komen Foundation has decided to stop supporting women seeking care at Planned Parenthood health centers. We are determined to make sure that these women can continue to get the care they need — and, as always, that means we are counting on you.
If you can spare the money, please donate. If you can’t, spread the word!
I donated earlier this month, and I’ll be donating again after this. If you can, consider doing the same.
(My most recent donation went to the National Network of Abortion Funds. They actually called to thank me that day!)
This makes me want to cry. Komen, you are a cash cow—-who fucking cares if woman-hating conservatives criticize you?
Or fine, go back to selling your toxic perfumes.
Heather McCormack—Editor, LJ Book Review—takes on libraries’ role in helping connect readers (and consumers) to books in “A Most Optimistic Unconference: Publishers, Libraries, and Independent Bookstores at Digital Book World 2012.” (via libraryjournal)
That’s right. Support your motherfucking library!
I have yet to read this. I still have Feminism: From Margin to Center on my shelf, waiting. But as I emphasize over and over to everyone, she’s damned important in the study of women’s studies, African-American studies, and the general breaking down of societal hierarchies.
burndownthedisco replied to your quote: The big difference between gay life and straight…
i’m skeptical of any essentializing anyone does about what’s “normal” for hetero vs. homosexual couples. there are people who burn their bridges and their are people who don’t. basta.
My first instinct is to be skeptical as well, though I really would like to know if there is a difference in trends between gay and straight ex-relationships. Maybe it’s true that gays are friendlier with their exes because they aren’t as likely to view them as the sexual other, whereas lots of straight men and women are interested in the opposite sex more as potential objects of desire, and aren’t necessarily open-minded enough to pursue a platonic friendship. I don’t have any evidence, however, other than the anecdotal.
Violet Rose, in Three Steps to Better Sex (via muffdiver)
This reminds me of the post going around which contrasted the pathologizing of public breastfeeding with the gratuitous, objectifying images of women’s breasts that can be found in advertising.
The legal and social message is that our bodies are for purchase and exchange between men—and their liberty to buy us and sell us should never be infringed! NOT EVER! FIRST AMENDMENT! FIRST AMENDMENT!—not for us to do with as we please. Never that! (via mswyrr)
After using the phrase today in a different context, I just learned that “skin in the game” was coined by Warren Buffet to refer to investors who buy stock in their own companies. Not that I hate Warren Buffet, but it does make me feel dirty somehow.
Funny, I was just looking at pepper spray products online yesterday. My roommate keeps telling me stories about someone she knows getting followed and attacked, so I thought I’d better think harder about protecting myself. I, too, was annoyed by all the pink on the site. It’s condescending as fuck. It’s a big commercial jeer at us for feeling like we have to buy products that *might* make us safer. They probably won’t, though, because you could be attacked anywhere, anytime, and won’t always be lucky enough to have the spray in your hand at the right moment.
[tw: rape culture]
This is what my pepper spray looks like. For the record, I didn’t buy it for myself, my parents got it for me. As I was walking out of Wal Mart tonight, without it, it donned on me on how fucked up it is. Not only the fact that I need the weapon itself, but it’s color.
It’s like, we’re trying to make rape culture cutesy. Same goes for pink tazers. Pink handguns. We’re trying to make these weapons adorable in order to distract ourselves from the reason we carry them: to prevent ourselves from attackers.
Not only that, but the pink is geared toward women (or people who identify as women). There isn’t any blue, masculine mace. Why? Because men aren’t the ones who carry it around. How fucking terrible is that? “Here you go, you cute little girls, here’s a pink weapon to protect yourself from potential rapists and/or murderers.” It’s furthering the idea that rape and violence towards women is acceptable. It’s saying because our ways of protecting ourselves are cute and stylish, we’re harmless. Weapons should never make a fashion statement.
I’m planning to get some mace for when I run at night but I’ll be skipping the cutesy-poo pink mace and heading straight for the local weapons/ammo store.
Bah, I NEVER masturbated to CotCB. Ick. That’s what the rest of the series is for.
You know you want to.
I don’t know about this name change.
After I posted the previous entry, I remembered something someone who worked on the Hill mentioned about jerky constituents who call and yell at them. A tip: don’t yell at the staffers who answer the phone. It’s their job to record your position if you’re a constituent, but that’s all they can do. You are one of many, many people calling, and you can imagine what it’s like to take calls from asshole after asshole, albeit idealistic, crusading assholes.
